After that, we tried to go as regularly as we could afford…but keep in mind it was a four hour trip for us, so it wasn’t as often as we would have liked. But Plot loved us! We were fresh and new and they wanted to include us in as many modules as possible. Leif messaged me about running a MWE Stew module. MWE being Mystic Wood Elf, which was the character race I played. Calita gets captured and put into a big pot for stew, and the people she traveled with would come to her rescue. The people she traveled with…and half the town. Apparently, Calita was much loved by more than I would have ever expected. My favorite story was of her accidently getting obliterated by a big and powerful plot character during a pleasant conversation that was interrupted by some outside confrontation. She was thankfully brought back for the abyss, but the big and powerful plot character was scolded for it. “Now Nihil…you should know better than to obliterate everyone’s favorite MWE…”
But I digress…after that little module, and me attending less and less events and Leif and his wife leaving Plot due to the internal politics behind the game, we started to chat more and more over email, AIM, later making up new characters to RP on GaiaOnline, and over all…strengthening the bonds of our friendship. When he and his wife started to flounder in their marriage, I was the ear he chewed on as he tried to figure out what it was he wanted in the marriage, how much he loved his wife, and how to let her know how he felt. He thanked me for saving his marriage, just for simply listening and being supportive when he was able to sort out his thoughts.
When things blew up between me and my previous boyfriend, they offered me a place to stay. I never went, because with their other roommate and numerous cats they had…their house felt too crowded. And then things started falling apart with their marriage, as well as their losing the house and both of them looking for work farther and farther away. With my move to the north, I did everything I could to remain cheerful for Leif and his wife, being supportive and saying a fresh new start in a new area will do the both of them good. They ended up separating in the end.
But Leif and I didn’t stop being friends. We stilled chatted, still RPed whenever we got the chance. It wasn’t until early last month that his spirits had gone downhill. He couldn’t stop focusing on how much he hated his job, how much he hated where he lived and how the women…just didn’t make sense to him. They either stop talking to their guy friends when they start dating, or abandon their friends and families all together when they start dating. Why would anyone want to do that?! It made no sense to either one of us. Even when I was dating my last boyfriend, Leif and I still talked on a pretty regular basis!
I’m not sure, but I think it took me threatening to stop talking to Leif that helped to turn his life around a bit. No…wait…he recently told me that it was during said threat when I told him that I loved him that turned him around. Afterwards…after a lot of talking and suggestions and attempts of being supportive during his depression, he thanked me…thanked me a lot for being his friend, for talking him through it, even when I was really upset with him; for pretty much not abandoning him.
And in all honesty…that has thus far been the only time I’ve been upset with him ever in our friendship. That’s how we’ve always gotten along with each other. We have always been open with each other about every topic that’s come to mind, we understand how the other feels about a variety of subjects, what experiences brought us to how it is we react and deal with certain situations…and we’ve figured out that we have so much in common, especially in the way we think and act…that…the primary things that make us different from each other is our genders…and the fact that I’m skilled in the Arts while he’s skilled in Computers.
So…as we talked over the past month, about the changes we were making, how we dream of ways to better our lives…we reevaluated our friendship. It wasn’t entirely the first time we thought about dating, but we always came to the same conclusions that it wasn’t worth the risk. We lived too far away from each other…and we didn’t want to risk ruining our friendship. But then further thoughts and discussions came along…we’ve always been long distance friends…we weren’t looking to rush into anything with anyone else…and we trusted each other more than anyone else. Not to mention that we were a weird couple of people to begin with so…why not give a try? On Xmas Eve…after coming home from work, I made a suggestion, he asked if that’s what I wanted…it felt like we were either way…and…it became official.
People doubt it will work, but we figure the main reason most Long Distance Relationships don’t work for normal couples is because the people are so used to being around each other all the time. We’re not used to being around each other all the time…we’re used to living far away from each other, so…we figure we’ve got a better chance than most normal couples…because we’re not normal couples! XD We’re a couple of weirdoes who like to RP during our free time, who hang out by playing video games online…who enjoy watching the same shows and movies! We’ve got a lot in common with each other, not just in hobbies but in the way we think and figure out problems. We are a good match.
We’re nervous about it…don’t get me wrong…but we trust each other…we trust that we will work through the problems when they come up, and pretty much play it by ear as we figure out where we go next.
There’s no one else I’d rather be with, and no one else I want to give my love to. Happy Birthday, Leif.
